To the head of the house, remember discussions about behavior and the need to administer a spanking do not mean you yell at her out of anger or frustration. Keep calm showing that you are in control and that you love her. Even if you are very frustrated with her behavior, you never want to make it seem that your love is being taken away.
To the dependent, you must remember that you are being punished even if you don’t agree with it. Do not argue with him or talk back, in fact it’s best to remain silent as you are being scolded saying nothing but make sure you acknowledge you understand what he is saying by nodding your head. Once the spanking is over the HoH should give you an opportunity to express your feelings. It’s okay to explain why you felt the spanking was unfair, but do not do it as an argument, simply tell him this is how you felt but then always thank him for the love he has shown you and acknowledge you will do better.